The power of the Trauma Bond

by Michelle Cannan

June 25, 2025 | Blog

Why is it when a Narcissist and unconscious Empath typically meet, they are instantly attracted to each other?

The power of the Trauma Bond is a force like no other.

Trauma comes from the Greek word for “Wound”.

All emotions have a magnetic field of intelligence that bond with an experience that will serve your highest good….even if it doesn’t feel like it.

In the case of the Narcissist and unconscious Empath they bond through a “negative” charge that will inevitably end up triggering the trauma with the intention to heal the deeper wound.

The behaviors are the symptoms that are being driven by the causative issue.

Big picture…

The unconscious empaths core limiting perception is “I need to be needed.”

The Narcissists core limiting perception is “I am not wanted.”

As much as the Narcissist wants to feel wanted, their protection mechanism won’t let them. To do so means they have no control over being rejected and hurt.

Enter the unconscious Empath who will want to fix this hurt at any price to feel needed.

This unconscious recognition of love amplifies the pain that will drive the causative issue to the surface to be transformed.

The level at which the dynamic is experienced depends on how deep the “wound” is for each person.

It can range from extremely subtle behaviors to full blown toxicity.

How do I know, I was the unconscious empath for many years who continually attracted the Narcissist archetype. It wasn’t until I healed my own pain the cycle stopped.

This prolific relationship cycle has been playing out for many generations and from my observation is at an all time high because…humanity is ready to heal the collective pain to set ourselves free to be able to trust in the very thing we ALL desire the most…LOVE.

These type of trauma bonds can be experienced with parents, in intimate relationships, friendships, work colleagues, family members, organizations that hold a certain philosophy, curriculum or law.

In this FREE Emotional Intelligence Masterclass, I will be showing you why these co-dependant attractions occur and how to unlock the trauma bond to set yourself free.

No blame, no projections, no victimisation.

Ready to learn how to take control of your life through self-regulation to then create relationships that allows you to co-relate in ways that your heart has been aching for?

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About the author, Michelle Cannan

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Gifted with insightful wisdom from a young age, along with the ability to read human behavior, Michelle Cannan has the innate gift to heal and transform the unconscious. Combining this gift with other modalities including Traditional Chinese Medicine, energy work & EFT Michelle has developed the 5 step process known as "The Soul Apprenticeship"

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